Better than "how was school." Pick the age and where you are. It hands you one question and what to do with the answer.
Questions to Ask Your Kids Generator
FreeAll optional. Leave them alone and anything goes.
I've got thousands of photos of my daughter and not one recording of her telling me what she thinks. I know what she looked like at two. I don't have what she sounded like. That bugged me enough to write a whole post about it, and then to build this.
"How was your day" gets you "fine." A specific question gets you a kid. But you're at the dinner table, or in the car, or the lights are off, and you can't scroll a listicle for the right one. So this hands you one. Ask it out loud, then be quiet longer than feels normal. That's the whole trick.
The questions that need a kid who can hold a conversation are built from what dads ahead of me say works. I'll be running them myself soon enough.
Gene, The Dad Post
Pick what fits: your kid's age, where you are (dinner table, car, bedtime), and what kind of question you want (funny, real, or one of the big ones). Every filter is optional. Hit the button and you get one question plus a line on what to do with the answer. Don't like it? Hit "Another one." You won't see a repeat until you've been through everything that matches.
Yes. No account, no email, no app. It's a free tool from The Dad Post, a monthly letter for dads.
Toddlers (2-3), little kids (4-7), big kids (8-12), and teens (13+). Toddler questions are short and concrete because "how was your day" means nothing to a two-year-old. Teen questions are built for the car, where nobody has to make eye contact.
Because the question is the easy part. What you do with the answer is where the conversation actually happens. Sometimes it's a follow-up to ask. Sometimes it's "don't fix it, just listen." Sometimes it's a thing to go do this weekend.
The questions you ask once a year and record. What do you want to be when you grow up. What do you want to remember about this year. Is there anything you want to tell me. They're the ones from The Interview, an activity in our generator where you sit your kid down, hit record, and ask five questions. In ten years it's the most valuable file on your phone.
Tap the heart on any card and it goes under the Saved tab at the top of the tool. Saves are stored in your browser on that phone or computer only. Nothing is synced and nothing is sent to us. To keep the list, open Saved and hit "Send list to myself."
The Dad Post is a real letter, on paper, once a month. A story, a challenge to do with your kid, and a reason to check the mail.
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